Coach Rebecca Gordon

Think about this quote from Edwin Markham: “Choices are the hinges of destiny.” If at this time last year, today was once your destiny, what crucial choices did you make that have led you to here?  What different choices would you have made, or different decisions would you have taken, that could have given an improved outcome?  If where you are now is a direct reflection of the quality of your decision-making skills, where 1 is not quite and 10 is absolutely, how satisfied are you with your ability to make those crucial decisions that lead to your life moving in the best possible direction? Many factors influence the decision-making process, sometimes making it hard to determine the exact right thing to do. When deciding what action to take, do you focus on what others think or do you move forward with conviction through listening to your inner guide?  No-one is perfect and if I knew then what I know now, there are some things I myself would hav...

    More often than not we talk to others in a loving and kind way because we are mindful not to hurt their feelings. Yet how much care do we take to monitor our own self-talk that comes in the form of thoughts? Some time ago I attended a conference where John Kehoe explained this using the concept of Mind Power . Amongst the statements he made that day are: ‘ thoughts are things ’ and ‘your thoughts know you, oh so well’ . John raised awareness of how the mind can hold onto thoughts as absolute truths, even though they may be unhelpful or unconstructive. There are times when I have caught myself entertaining non-supportive mind chatter. Disempowering thoughts that start as a whisper, gradually turn into nagging, disapproving judgements such as: “ I’m so stupid...!” “I can’t do this...!” “Life is hard...!” “I’ll never be any good at this....” “I’m an idiot...” Without disassociation that comes by consciously being an observer of the mind such conclusions re...

The word relationship is defined as: “the state of being connected, or the mutual dealings or connections that exist between two things... ”.  This gives clues to the type of interactions that foster positive, meaningful CONNECTION. The types of relationships we encounter consist of those with people, money or health, for example, yet one type of relationship that can often create turmoil is the romantic connection with a love interest. Building romantic love at any time of life can fill someone with trepidation. However, experiencing this process after 40 can bring a test of confidence that is emotionally and mentally challenging. For the middle-aged woman who enters a new relationship, ‘baggage’ doesn’t just mean the items you check in with at the airport, but includes the entourage of ‘stuff’ that surreptitiously tags along for the ride – and without invitation! This suggests that the art of loving with confidence after 40 requires conscious awa...